Twirling the idea of the Vulnerability and the Subject

A very interesting topic in today's lecture shows that how the vulnerability displays in social position. This topic, in my opinion, lies in the fact of ideology, which is like the common sense recognized by the public. Nowadays, the ideology is apt to promote the positive character and the revelation of confidence for an individual. Most people regard the vulnerable person as a reflect of shock, fear and coward etc. It is therefore useless to cope with the needs of society in terms of the vulnerability. Or we might say the vulnerable people lack the access to resource in the current life, staying the old-fashioned way in his or her living. Such a consideration falls into everybody's mind and can hardly be gotten rid of in the reality. What I mean is that, this society tries to make sense of the practical benefit in understanding this point, it is like that fear or shock do no good in human nature, perhaps one should change his character into more positive and confident and then it will soon lead him to the success in this society. And we will unconsciously regard the feeling of fear, of shock and of pressure as a negative features that may more or less destroy our deed in growth of our being. Next, Judith Butler seems to proclaim that people should live in an alienated way in order to carry out his or her life as being a real subject. That is why she coins the word: Ek-static subject: be outside oneself. The crucial point lies in the fact that she considers that "human dependency" or the so-called formation of "attachment" must be disavowed. Perhaps the human dependency here inclines to mean the bondage of marriage or family. In the light of not being clear to illustrate the point of human dependency, I consider that people still need the dependency. It is no matter the conventional habits or the trifles in daily life. They all have the power of potential to aid the subject for becoming a real subject. Sometimes we depend on them for the self-actualization. These elements from attachment can no longer be dimmed for such subject. How do we fulfill a real subject without those attachments? Those attachments may inspire you one day, or it could be shown as an opposite way which you would like to argue about. So these attachments are relative, to be more specifically, they are more like relationship of cause and effect. And this is just my perspective on today's topic with a bit different comprehension.